Having our cake, and eating it too!
Last week, The Supreme Judicial Court of Massachusetts made another landmark decision concerning they lesbian and gay community. Apparently, in Massachusetts, gay couples have the legal right to get married, but we don't have to be responsible for our children when those marriages don't work out.
In a close 4 to 3 vote, the same court which legalized marriage equality in Massachusetts last November, ruled that a woman who planned to have a child with her lesbian partner by artificial insemination, only to sever the relationship before her partner gave birth, did not have to pay child support.
It's hard to understand the court's logic in this. They just ruled last November that gay and lesbian couples should be allowed to marry in the state of Massachusetts. And now, they are saying that, unlike heterosexual marriages, we shouldn't have to be responsible for child support when gay and lesbian marriages that involve children fail.
Of course, they article does not mention if the couple actually got married but from the wording in the article, I assumed that was the case. (source)
Equality means equality, nothing less. If we want equality, we have to be willing to be equal, which means suffering all the legal ramifications involved with children and divorce.





Here's the court case - T.F. vs. B.L. - and the facts DO SEEM to support the notion that they reached a wrong conclusion here. Thought you'd want to see it for yourself.
they broke up in May 2000, so they obviously didn't get married. They did live together for the 4 years up until then. The Reuters article is a bit more detailed than the datalounge piece, but doesn't give much legal analysis. I'm guessing that since there was no "biological" tie to the child, is complicated by the fact that the women had no "legal" tie to each other may have made a difference; but the article isn't clear whether there was a written or oral agreement on the issue of having a child. I'd be interested in seeing more on this.