If it walks like a duck...

Sen. Larry Craig, who in May told the Idaho Statesman he had never engaged in homosexual acts, was arrested less than a month later by an undercover police officer who said Craig made a sexual advance toward him in an airport men’s room.

The arrest at a Minnesota airport prompted Craig to plead guilty to disorderly conduct earlier this month. His June 11 encounter with the officer was similar to an incident in a men’s room in a Washington, D.C., rail station described by a Washington-area man to the Idaho Statesman. In that case, the man said he and Craig had sexual contact. [...]

Craig, 62, was elected to Congress in 1980. Should he win re-election in 2008 and complete his term, he would be the longest-serving Idahoan ever in Congress. His record includes a series of votes against gay rights and his support of a 2006 amendment to the Idaho Constitution that bars gay marriage and civil unions. (source)

I’ve been avoiding writing about anything political for the last few months, opting instead to focus on my family life, photography, trips, and the like. I’ve come to the realization that your life is what you make it. You decide just how happy you are going to be and what you want your life to be.

That being said, I’m not going to get sucked into talking about things (politics) that I can’t control and that will effect my life in a negative way in the long run. BUT... I just have to say a few things about the issue surrounding Idaho Senator Larry Craig, in general terms.

A Point of View About the "Gay Anonymous Sex" Phenomenon
Everyone seems to think that most gay men have anonymous sex in parks, public bathrooms, and the like. There’s currently a big brouhaha going on in Fort Lauderdale about public sex. Why do people think this phenomenon exists? It doesn’t exist for straight folks. Here’s why...

Try to imagine for a moment if you are straight, that you live in a world that is gay-oriented, and that straight sex or having feelings for someone of the opposite sex is something to be ashamed of. You want to feel like you are part of human society, but everywhere you look, there are references to the life you could have, if you were only gay; references to sexuality in movies, magazines, public displays of affection, etc.

What do you do? You go underground. If people are honest, everyone needs affection, and part of that most likely involves sex. You also know that society not only thinks you are disgusting, but the very thought of you having a relationship with someone of the opposite sex is revolting. You want to feel connected to the rest of the human race. So, you go to places where you feel that no one will know you and that you won’t be seen. Not surprisingly, most of these places are unsafe, unclean, and in places where most people would never dream of going for a sexual encounter, which is whole point of going there for sex in the first place, if you want to hide it.

What to do about this issue
It shouldn’t be surprising that there are people who will go to any lengths to avoid the stigmatization of being labeled queer, especially those in public office. And just to make sure that everyone thinks that you are in the right category, if you are a politician, you vote against the queers every chance you get. Which brings us to Senator Craig.

What Senator Craig wants in his life is companionship. In his narrow view of the world, he is trying to achieve that companionship in the only available way open to him. I didn’t say it was the best way to find companionship, but it is the only way in his world.

Ironically, he is part of the machine that is out to destroy what would make it possible for him to have that companionship, and to be part of the fabric of society. If there were more committed gay couples, there would be less gay anonymous sex by people who are ashamed of themselves. And many of these “gay men” having this sex go right back home to their wives who have no clue what they are up too. But at least, they are living the straight lifestyle.

The way for gay people to commit to each other is for society to stop treating the concept of gay couple-hood as something bad and to be avoided. In other words, get rid of the stigma of being gay. You don’t do that by passing amendments against gay marriage or passing laws that single out gay citizens. Senator Craig is guilty of doing this.

Senator Craig basically got caught. He has done everything in his power to kill any hope for gay couples in Idaho of ever having any legal recognition or legal protections for a very long time to come. He deserves everything he gets. He’s earned it.

I used to be more understanding of people such as Senator Craig, who can’t seem to come to terms with their reality. But now that we know what he’s about, all the while fueling the fires of hatred against gay people in the Idaho Senate, it just pisses me off.